First, calm down yourself. If she is your daughter, your niece, cousins or your friend’s daughter or who ever they are try not to show disappointment. Try to be cool when you face such situation. You have to understand that it’s not easy for her to tell her personal problems with someone else.

You must talk with the girl face to face and understand what she is facing. This is a dramatic frightening moment for her, so not make it rough. Try to find out by yourself is she really pregnant or just afraid she might be. Buy her pregnancy test kit. Take her to doctor to do more test because the sooner you’ll know the truth, the sooner you’ll be able to deal with it.

She probably thought you are the only person she trust to solve her problem so don’t get upset with her. If she is pregnant, her body is going to through a lot changes. You can consult her problem with doctors or go to Planned Parenthood clinic in your area.

Naturally, her bodies change. Her boobs get bigger, her tummies expand and her taste buds become fickle, taking her on a whirlwind from one craving to the next. She can change from a once slender girl into chubby girl.

Of course, morning sickness, which can happen at anytime during the day, is also a new change for the girl. Foods and even smells once she loved may not interest her no more. On top of that, she might face pimple outbreaks, exhaustion and sore feet and backs. And then there are the emotional and mental changes.

Obviously she is pregnant if you find those signs on the girl after her test prove that she is positive pregnant. So, you must get close near to her. She might feel lonely because she has to leave school and thinks that everybody hates her for what she did. Be a good friend of her.

Try to take her into the mom mindset so she can be more protective to herself. Encourage her that pregnant is a wonderful moment for a woman, and no need to be shamed of. So, she needs to protect her body by eating good nutrition food and having a lot of rest because this is for someone’s sake inside her.

Unless the girl don’t want her partner to be closed to her, let her partner involved in helping her going through this difficult condition. If he is as young as her, maybe he can visit her amid his school days. Let them decide what best for them. But the most important things for you are to tell them that they still have future. Good luck

About the Author: Sara Jameson writes her experiences in “The Very Happy Pregnancy: Avoiding Stress and Depression.” Read her secrets and truths about having a happy, healthy pregnancy. Visit http://www.online-pregnancy-test.info; http://www.pregnancy-test.101.info and http://www.teen-pregnancy-101.info

In my tenure as a psychologist and coach, I have heard countless middle school students say: “What’s wrong with a B, they expect me to make straight A’s”, “I hate being the example”, “They just want me to get into an IV league college- I’m only in 6th grade I don’t want to think about college yet”, “They just want to brag to their friends”. At times, parents can lose sight of how hard they push their kids. In addition, they can be negligent in realizing the negative impact pushing may have on their child’s self esteem. Pushing too hard can be internalized as – You’re not good enough. This message can translate into a number of different behaviors. For example, I have worked with children who have shut down and given up on academics completely because the pressure is too great. In their minds, not trying and being a failure is a lot better than trying and being a failure. I also have seen students resort to lieing and cheating just to make the grade. These students know it is wrong to cheat or copy their friend’s homework; however, the praise and parent satisfaction for bringing home a good report far outweighs the guilt and consequences for getting caught.

It is common knowledge that children would rather stay in their comfort zones rather than take risks, especially academically. It is important for parents to set high standards for their children. So how can a parent maintain a balance between setting “high standards” and putting undue pressure on their child?

1. Self Reflect.

a) Figure out the reasons why it is important for you to push your child. Be honest and frank with yourself. The reasons may not be pretty at times, but by accepting the ugly, you can let go and make changes.

b) Determine where your child is academically and where you want them to be. Then reflect on whether these expectations are realistic, too demanding, or not demanding enough.

2. Practice acceptance. Know your child and adjust your expectations. For example, B’s may be acceptable in reading because, as the parent, you know reading has not been easy for your child since first grade.

3. Make it a point to speak with your kids regularly. Kids will open up when you least expect it, so always be ready for a conversation. Most often, parents have the best conversations with their children in the car on the way to or from an event (ie soccer practice). Ask them two basic questions: 1)what do you need from me, how can I support you in your school work? 2) do you feel I put too much pressure on you? Most often they will give you honest feedback and tell you what they need.

4. Pay attention. Notice any changes in your child’s behavior. Pay attention to eating and sleeping habits, the kinds of friends they hang out with, as well as the consistency in their grades.

5. Speak with your child’s teacher(s) and/or counselor. Always make it a point to speak with your child’s teachers. I recommend a check in phone call twice a year. Ask the teacher how you can be supportive to the academic process? Ask the teacher how much help s/he expects for you to give your child on homeowork. Furthermore, a good counselor is a parent’s best resource. Counselors have tools and tips to help you be a support system to your child.

6. Tutor- Tutors can work wonders with children. Tutoring is not just for students who are behind. I have seen tutoring have a significant positive effect on very bright students. Working with a tutor alleviates some of the pressure, and as a result, bright students shine even brighter.

7. Relax and Know – that everything will work out.

By taking a balanced and supportive stance in your child’s academic life, you will ensure that your child will grow and learn successfully.

Peggy Tsatsoulis, MA CAGS – is a highly sought after Professional Life Coach and Certified Psychologist with over ten years of experience. She has been dedicated to working with individuals to improve the quality of their lives, and her focus has been on bringing out the best in others. For more information and resources, or to sign up for a free e-course and/or consultation please visit http://www.simplycoaching.net